Back from the Brink

Where do I begin?...the frustration...the breakage....the just in time recovery?


My hair and I have been through it these past few months. I thought going back to my old faithful braids would be just what I needed, but the dryness and the breakage was still there. After that stint I latched on to flat twists and bantu knots. I said, "This is it! I'm riding this hair style out to BSL!" Until I saw a picture of myself at our church's Christmas banquet. 

That's not a bald spot! Just a natural part. But you can see that
gap toward the back.

Me and "Scrooge".  I made the costumes for the banquet.

My hair had broken off so much. I really thought I would be bald at that rate.


Beside dealing with my hair, life was turning tricks on me too. There were short hours on the job, nothing but short change in my pocket, and trying to find a new place to live was turning into a desperate situation. The DIY was getting old and all I wanted to do was run to the nearest salon and let them chop it off.


Who has been there??


Things have gotten all around better (yay). I realized I can't do everything, but I can start with some things. I bought


                             A pair of hair scissors
                             Bottled water
                             My old faithful motions shampoo and conditioner
                             Sofn'free milk protein & olive oil leave in treatment (mouth full lol)
                             Hats

I really tried to identify what was attacking my strands.


                           My ends were knotted and split.
                           They were snagging on themselves and chewing my strands up
                           The dry air and hard water was working hard against me
                           I wasn't using anything keep any moisture
                         


I didn't go GI Jane with the scissors but I clipped the ends as much as needed (up to 1/2 inch). The soft water made my hair feel like cashmere! I was never a fan of leave-in conditioners, but this one is working! I keeps me soft from wash to wash. Last, I keep my hair braided or twisted and under a super cute knit hat. I don't even let my hair out for church on Sunday if I ca help it.


Right now I feel great. I feel I'm back on track. I hope this is a light at the end of a tunnel for someone.

New braids, new shampoo

I was adventurous with my braid design this time around. I'm not as comfortable with it as I thought I would be, nor did it turn out exactly how I thought it would. This look defiantly needs hair accessories to take the edge off.

Before I went to get braided this afternoon I washed my hair. Saying that is actually saying a lot because I do not like the process of washing my hair. Last Saturday morning when at my mom's house I washed my and conditioned my hair with Motions and did a hot Jojoba oil treatment. I was able to put it in a puff and let it air dry. That same night  I made two rows of flat twist and Bantu knots. When I took them out in the morning I sprayed it down with Motions oil sheen. From then until now I've put nothing on my hair but oil (Once I got back I used my Motions Marula oil on my hair and scalp) and water and that has really worked for moisture. So when I go to wash my hair this morning I'm dreading having to strip my hair of this oil with my sulfate shampoo. Plus if it stripped my hair then I would have to use conditioner and I didn't want to go through all that. I looked around my bathroom and grabbed my black soap bar. The ingredients are:

Pure honey

Shea Butter  

Osun (Carmwood)

Cocoa pod powder

Plantain peel powder

Palm kernel oil

Coconut oil

Water 

Aloe Vera

It worked like a charm! My hair was clean but the oil was still there. I allowed my to drip dry and the curl was the best I had ever seen after a wash. I think my search for an all chemical free shampoo is over.

Before the wash

My attempt at accessorizing this du. The clip is a top mini
hat with feathers and a bow.

Back in Baids

It's late, but I really wanted to get this up while it's still fresh and exciting to me...
I finally had my hair braided! I am so happy, I feel like my self again. 


I was sitting in the welfare office yesterday (I was trying to get those good food stamps. Hey, we all need a little help more often then we like to admit) and this girl leaned over and told me how much she liked my hair and we started a conversation. For a while now I have been getting my hair braided sans the weave or extensions. Dealing with the extensions is a hassle and taking it out is even worse. I just attach the weave to my exposed pony tail when it's all done. Well, apparently, this is trending right now as the style to have for summer, this girl was telling me. She read in an recent Black hair article that braids are effortless and stylish, but women should avoid putting synthetic hair next to their scalps. If I find the magazine with that article, I'll defiantly post.

Naturals in The New York Times

I want to share this article I accessed through Kimmaytube's YouTube vlog. I'm beyond happy that these ladies are getting such attention. I'm even more excited that this movement of going natural is getting such attention. 


Wearing our natural hair has caused quite a sir in our own community and has challenged our perspective of ourselves culturally and socially. I feel that there is more of self-respect (correct me if i'm wrong) among naturals that other cultures will acknowledge. 


I don't know about you, but I didn't know Mae and Curly Nikki were as young as they are. I'm astonished at their how accomplished they are in their personal lives and how they have gained the attention of thousands, in their own way from their homes. I truly admire these ladies. I could go on and on, but I won't. enjoy the article


The New York Times: 'Going Natural' Requires Lots of Help

Mocha Facial Scrub

Last Monday I picked up my facial scrub! Yay! 

Ingredients: fine ground coffee, cocoa , baking soda, dry milk. 

Instructions: rub about 1 teaspoon of scrub onto a wet face and rinse

I was told over the phone that this scrub would last me a "long time". I was a little taken back when I pulled it out of the the packaging to see that it was a dry scrub, which explains why is would last without spoiling. I've used this twice a week so far and I like it. I really couldn't use it more often because of the coffee grounds. They are quite fine, but they still feel a little hard on the face. The milk works well as a moisture agent. Overall, it does a good job at slothing my skin without drying me out.

On another note, I've stopped using the vitamin E on my face all together and went ahead and started using the Shea butter. I've gotten over my fear of having Shea butter on my face. I apply a thin layer after washing (in the morning and before bed). Less is more in this case. It leaves my face soft and healthy looking. I've also noticed my scars and spots slowly fading. It will take time, maybe a month or so, to see true results. The true test will be to see how these products prevent my once a month breakouts. Among other terrible things, my face goes haywire when my monthly friend shows up. I will have finally arrived when I find products to combat that.

Mocha  Facial Scrub

Skin Care Survival Kit

This Saturday I restocked on skin care necessities. I think I have successfully weaned myself off of Mary Kay products...well, most of Mary Kay products. I still have memories of my long emptied bottles of the Microderm Abrasion duo. It's called the Miracle set for a reason, lol.  Last month I tried using African Black soap (the real stuff, the ugly brownish stuff) and Vitamin E capsules with ginseng. This didn't necessarily do wonders for me, but I enjoyed the fresh clean felling on my face. The Black soap didn't  dry my skin out and the vitamin E absorbed into my skin without leaving my face looking shiny or feeling greasy.


In this trip to the beauty store I picked up another bottle of Vitamin E, but with Aloe and a much wanted tub of Shea butter (oh, yeah!) So far I really like the Vitamin E+ Aloe. It smells good, it fells cool on my face and it's very calming to painful blemishes. I've used Shea butter before to lighten my dark knees, but now I'm testing in on my  face. I'm only rubbing a thin layer on my chin for the next few weeks to see if it doesn't fade my scars and even out my tone. My t-zone might be a better place to test the effectiveness of the Shea butter but, I'm afraid to do that right now.

I am so happy I found a place that sells almonds in bulk here in South bay! I've driven by this market called Sprouts farmer's market a few times, but I finally went in this weekend. I'm glad I did! It reminds me of the Nugget at home. I love the atmosphere in these places. I love the quality of the produce and the SALES. Let me tell you- I checked out this place Saturday, last week, and spotted my almonds at $5.99 per/lb.   At home, at WinCo, I paid about $3.49 per/lb for locally grown almonds. I thought, "I'll make the sacrifice, I really need these."  When I went back to buy them this past Friday they were on sale for $3.99! I was beyond happy.


A note to all: Don't be afraid to shop the specialty markets. If you shop the sales you will fare better than you would at the super market or grocery store. 


Now that I have my almond supply checked off of my skin care list, I know almonds alone won't do. I really need to get more water in my diet.  When I say water I mean foods that have a high water content and natural cleansing abilities. Fruits and vegetables have this. I can't wait for Melons and grapes to some into season- BTW Sprouts have large honeydew for $1.99 each! I so love that place. Anyhoo, when I get my skin care arsenal fully loaded I'll share.

Florin Rd. Nugget. Sacramento, CA

The last thing I'm excited about is a natural coffee facial scrub. I'm going to pick it up from a new friend of mine who is developing a pantry bath and beauty skin care line. I've already sampled her sugar scrub and it was great. I can't wait to see how this coffee scrub will work for me.

Here's What's in My Kit so Far:

Black Soap

Vitamin E +Aloe

Shea Butter

Almonds

Bottled Water

    Coffee Facial Exfoliant

 

     

 

Wash-N-Go (Stick to the Plan)

This past week had been so crazy that I had no time to wash and prep my hair for the upcoming week. I knew I couldn't go another day with dirty, dry hair, so I did a wash and go style. Although this is relatively quick and easy (as easy as it gets for kinky hair)  I don't like dealing with the aftermath of dry compacted hair.


In the past, after washing and conditioning, I would apply my curl activator to small sections of loose hair then brush that section until it smoothed out and curled into a ringlet. After my entire head was done I would go back over it, taking individual curls and adding setting lotion to them. I did that to "freeze" the curl to avoid too much shrinkage and the compacted Afro. 

Sept 2010
Second day wash and go of the past. Not the business!

This time around my wash and go was unbelievable! I loved it. It was perfectly curly (for me). I wore it in a side pony and my damp hair was hanging to the base of my neck. By the end of the day it dried into a oh-so-soft curly poof. On the second day it was still super soft and light. Today is the third day, but my ends are starting to dry out.


Here's the thing, I have a goal in mind. I'm not going to change my strategy because I had success with this wash and go. Yes, this style took half the time it normally takes to wash and prep my hair. Yes, it was a nice change from the same old thing, but now is not the time to do something new. Sticking to proven methods (for me, braided styles or twists) will keep me on track to the hair I want. So, with that, I'm glad I took a picture, because I might not see that Wash-N-Go for a while. 

My wash method and how I did the Wash-N-Go

My hair is usually already twisted when I go to wash. If it's in some other style I'll put it back into chunky twists.

• My hair looks like this before and after I get out of the shower.  When I prep for wash I add shampoo the sections and  use a wide tooth comb to detangle and pre-wash, then twist.

• When I get into the shower the first thing I do is wash my hair. I shampoo 2-3 times. On the last shampoo I do not rinse right away. I add conditioner to my hair with the shampoo still in it. 

• First I turn off the the water. Then I take each twist, untwist it, add conditioner, finger comb and re twist. I use clips to keep them separated. When that is done, I'll put on a plastic cap. 

• Now it's time to get to the actual showering. I save things like shaving, and using my body scrub for wash days so that my conditioner can have time to work. When all is done I rinse my hair thoroughly with cool water to seal the conditioner in. I don't do cold water, I just can't take it.

• After towel drying, I'll spray oil on my scalp. I take a section, untwist it and apply my Motions Clear hairdressing cream to the roots and down the hair midway. Going to the ends, I'll add the ECO styler gel, smoothing the tips until they curl then work my way up. I use a wide comb if I need to, but I usually finger comb and do a lot of stretching and smoothing. I'm always careful to remove shedding hair, carefully untangling, and cutting knots. 

(Note: I only cut in the middle of the knot to release the hair vs. ripping the hair, breaking it or letting it snap off in the comb. I also do everything I can to get the knot as small as possible before cutting it.)

Out of habit, I always re twist my sections after adding product. On Sunday this entire process took me about 1hr and 15min.

This was at the end of Sunday. My hair was super soft and moisturized. It shrunk up, but not nearly as much as it has in the past. When I took the poof out I still had curl definition in the middle.

This is today, the third day. It isn't bad, but it's starting to dry out. Time to twist it up.